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CoDA E-Meditation, July 22, 2014

Letting Go of That Which Does Not Serve Us
"You know, we’ve seen much conflict in the relationships today, but the people here are stating who or what they want. It gets me to thinking we often know what we want; we just don’t always know what’s best for us.  At least not initially.  
We are led by the heart, emotionally drawn and attached. Sometimes the relationship can be downright destructive. But we rationalize away the faults, blinded by this emotional dependency and we try and hang in, no matter how obvious it may seem to others that we ought to dump our mate. 
The truth is, whenever the senses are involved, what is most pleasurable or intense isn’t necessarily good. 
Life IS like a box of chocolates. No, you don’t always know what you’re gonna get.  But even if you did, and it’s exactly what you want and it tastes great, it doesn’t mean it’s good for you.
Sometimes you’re better off without it.”
—  Jerry Springer, “Caught Playing Dirty” Episode

Sometimes wisdom shows up in the darndest places!  Have a great week!

Peace and love, 
Lynn S. and the CoDA Board 
http://www.codaomaha.org 

CoDA E-Meditation, July 22, 2014

Letting Go of That Which Does Not Serve Us

"You know, we’ve seen much conflict in the relationships today, but the people here are stating who or what they want. It gets me to thinking we often know what we want; we just don’t always know what’s best for us.  At least not initially.  

We are led by the heart, emotionally drawn and attached. Sometimes the relationship can be downright destructive. But we rationalize away the faults, blinded by this emotional dependency and we try and hang in, no matter how obvious it may seem to others that we ought to dump our mate. 

The truth is, whenever the senses are involved, what is most pleasurable or intense isn’t necessarily good. 

Life IS like a box of chocolates. No, you don’t always know what you’re gonna get.  But even if you did, and it’s exactly what you want and it tastes great, it doesn’t mean it’s good for you.

Sometimes you’re better off without it.”

—  Jerry Springer, “Caught Playing Dirty” Episode

Sometimes wisdom shows up in the darndest places!  Have a great week!

Peace and love, 

Lynn S. and the CoDA Board 

http://www.codaomaha.org 

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CoDA E-Meditation, 07/15/2014
Bouncing Back from Adversity“You’re never, ever going to have 100% security….and so what you have to do is to change your mentality to one of resilience. Whether we’re thinking about this in terms of the physical side of resilience — if your body gets cut, it just doesn’t give up, it has all sorts of reaction mechanisms — to the psychological side of resilience.  If you go through life thinking that nothing bad is ever going to happen to you, that’s a recipe for disaster.  Instead, it’s how you’re going to react to these bad things.If you’re going to get the good in life…. accept that there’s some bad that comes along with it.” Author P.W. Singer,  from a Fresh Air interview January 15, 2014I listen to a lot of podcasts because I learn interesting and helpful things.The quote above is an excerpt from a discussion about cyber-security.NPR’s Terry Gross interviewed the author shortly after several major retailers including Target lost staggering amounts of data to hackers.Technology has risen to unprecedented levels of power. It can be seductive to think that it is going to solve all of our problems and it is 100% safe and trustworthy.  But that world exists only in a “Jetsons” cartoon.In life and in cyberspace, security is always an illusion.  I am trying to think of this not as bad news, but as a simple reality.As a person who is recovering from codependency, I tend to see my life as either Perfection! = I am a good recovered person vs. The Horror of Mistakes=Failure at recovery. What I try to remember in times of trouble is that even if I worked my program 100% perfectly, my recovery from codependency does not change the fact that there are still lots sketchy people out there who would love to exploit my kindness and caring, and so I should set my boundaries accordingly. If things go south, whether because of my actions OR NOT —  I have reaction mechanisms in place that I have learned from working my program. Locking myself into a fortress of solitude where I can control everything is not the answer.  Crying “victim” only keeps us stuck. The world is here for us to work, play and learn in. Bad things are not fun, but they are part of the equation that we need to accept.Resilience helps us roll with the punches and come out stronger.   Peace and love,Lynn S. and the CoDA Board http://www.codaomaha.org


CoDA E-Meditation, 07/15/2014

Bouncing Back from Adversity

“You’re never, ever going to have 100% security….and so what you have to do is to change your mentality to one of resilience.

Whether we’re thinking about this in terms of the physical side of resilience — if your body gets cut, it just doesn’t give up, it has all sorts of reaction mechanisms — to the psychological side of resilience.  If you go through life thinking that nothing bad is ever going to happen to you,
that’s a recipe for disaster. 

Instead, it’s how you’re going to react to these bad things.
If you’re going to get the good in life…. accept that there’s some bad that comes along with it.”

Author P.W. Singer,  from a Fresh Air interview January 15, 2014


I listen to a lot of podcasts because I learn interesting and helpful things.

The quote above is an excerpt from a discussion about cyber-security.
NPR’s Terry Gross interviewed the author shortly after several major retailers including Target lost staggering amounts of data to hackers.

Technology has risen to unprecedented levels of power. It can be seductive to think that it is going to solve all of our problems and it is 100% safe and trustworthy.  But that world exists only in a “Jetsons” cartoon.

In life and in cyberspace, security is always an illusion.  I am trying to think of this not as bad news, but as a simple reality.

As a person who is recovering from codependency, I tend to see my life as either Perfection! = I am a good recovered person vs. The Horror of Mistakes=Failure at recovery.

What I try to remember in times of trouble is that even if I worked my program 100% perfectly, my recovery from codependency does not change the fact that there are still lots sketchy people out there who would love to exploit my kindness and caring, and so I should set my boundaries accordingly. If things go south, whether because of my actions OR NOT —  I have reaction mechanisms in place that I have learned from working my program. Locking myself into a fortress of solitude where I can control everything is not the answer.  Crying “victim” only keeps us stuck. The world is here for us to work, play and learn in. Bad things are not fun, but they are part of the equation that we need to accept.

Resilience helps us roll with the punches and come out stronger.

 

Peace and love,
Lynn S. and the CoDA Board
http://www.codaomaha.org

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